His Name Was Tom

Lauren Modery
8 min readOct 20, 2021

Though his death was barely noticed, he mattered. And I want you to know about Dr. Thomas Mwanika.

During the last six months of my grandmother’s life in our local hospital’s nursing and rehab center, I met a remarkable man — a man with a smile and laugh as warm and welcoming as the morning sun. At the risk of sounding even more prosaic, he had a twinkle in his eye.

This man often sat near the nurses’ station, smiling and nodding to everyone who passed by — including me and my mom. I eventually sat down and talked with this man, and I looked forward to speaking with him every time I visited the center to see my grandma.

This man would tell me stories of growing up in a small town in Uganda, of moving to America and getting his bachelor’s degree, master’s degree, and doctorate, and of the students and colleagues he met over the years.

This man would sometimes hold my grandmother’s hand while they ate dinner or push her wheelchair down the hall. We were happy that during this difficult time in both of their lives these two strangers — he 74 years of age and in declining physical and cognitive health due to a stroke; she 91 years of age and in declining physical and cognitive health due to a fall — connected even for a brief period.

This man was Dr. Thomas Mwanika, and today I found out he had passed away in January…

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Lauren Modery

Freelance writer; film Loves Her Gun premiered @ SXSW ‘13; used to be a Hollywood assistant; rail enthusiast; check out my dumb blog, hipstercrite.com